Why we love, 31 facts about Love
Overview
Love includes range of strong and positive mental and emotional state. Love is considered to be a virtue representing compassion, kindness and affection.
The unselfish, benevolent and loyal may be consider in love. You know what is love? But in this we will focus why we love? How we love? And some outstanding fact about love.
Science behind love
Let’s start with chemical level scientist believe that there are three main neurotransmitters are responsible for the attraction are dopamine, adrenaline, and serotonin.
Love makes you feel good this has the same effect on the brain as you doing cocaine. The dopamine released after the pleasurable activity and give you a feeling of pleasure.
The couple shows a high sign of dopamine level, which gives higher energy which suppressed hunger, higher ability of focus and less need for sleep.
Adrenaline
when you first fall in love with the person, your stress response is activated, increasing the level of cortisol and adrenaline in your blood. This is why you might have sweaty palms and racing heart when you see your lover.
Serotonin
Serotonin level drops in people who are in love. This drops in the level of serotonin can compare to the persons who have an obsessive-compulsive disorder.
That’s why you have an obsession, anxious and infatuation in early love.
Pheromones
Pheromones are also responsible for love to some extent. These are the chemical that humans and animal produces.
They are excreted through the skin and can be found in things like sweat and tears. Pheromone hormone can help to find their best genetics compatible mate.
In one study, women were asked to rate the smell of shirts worn by different men. In most cases, the women rated the shirts highest who were worn by men whose DNA was different from own.
All of your senses play a big part in being attracted to someone. We know that pheromone can attract you to someone who uses our sense of smell.
Senses
Our sense of sight also plays a big role in our sense of sight also play a big role like you see a person with good hair and fair skin.
Our instinct is to be visually attracted to that person who shows characteristics of being fit for reproduction.
Our ear also plays a role in the atteraction. Hearing a person’s voice along with the way in some cases higher or lower level of attraction.
A sense of touch also plays an important part in anyone’s relationship, it really can make or break in the beginning stages.
Many people lose their interest if they had first bad kiss.
If you are very close to a person then touch, smell, taste all working together. When your brain reacts positively to a first kiss, then your brain surges with norepinephrine.
Your heart beats faster and norepinephrine creates a sort of tunnel vision focus on the cutie in front of you or runs away. This chemical can warp your sense of time and also improve your memory.Brain Pleasure center
Changes in Brain
We often connect love with heart but love is truly is associated with the brain. If we look at the brain of somebody in love is similar to one on cocaine.
Cocaine acts on the pleasure center of the brain by lowering the threshold.
This means you will feel good easier or in a very simple activity. This same thing is seen when we see the brain of those people who are in love.
It’s not loving that makes you feel good, but it’s the facts that anything you experience will not easily set off in pleasure centers and make you feel good.
Because of this, you don’t only fall in love with the person, but you begin to build the romantic view of the person.
Nearby pain and aversion centers begin to less fire. So you found an activity more interesting.
Some chemical changes occur when you see the photo of a loved one or during orgasm, there is a streak of dopamine and norepinephrine from the ventral tegmental area.
This not only triggers sexual arousal and racing your but it also gives you desire, craving and motivation to be with a person more and more.
Love is not simply an emotion, but it is intense energy, focus attention and elation from your brain. Pleasure centers are part of the brain’s reward system.
If you stimulate the mesolimbic dopamine system while learning, the learning becomes much easier because it’s pleasurable and you perceive reward.
We also see a surge in the neuromodulator oxytocin from the nucleus accumbens. It also called the commitment neuromodulator because it reinforces the mammals to bonding and attachment.
When prairie voles are injected with oxytocin or vasopressin they will instantly find a mate to bond with.
In the study shown that people in love have a low level of serotonin which is similar to people with obsessive-compulsive disorder.
This cause obsession and infatuation during early love. These areas associated with intense romantic love can remain active for a very long time.
Science still knows very little about why and how love works.
Why do we love?
For love, we need more than feeling and it’s you, maybe you think that love is just feeling but it’s not.
Orton does one psychological experiment, in which he told the boy and the girl to talk for 90 min. They were completely strangers. After that, to see in each other eyes for 4 minutes.
He tries this experiment with many people. After that experiment, the majority of people say that they feel attractive when they continuously saw in each other eyes.
Dr. Arthur says that the process of attraction is started in 80 Sec in 4 min. In this process 55% contribution in your body language and personality, 38% is the way of talking, 7% skill of your talking,
Stages of Love
According to the studies there are three stages of love.
1. Lust
This is just a physical desire which comes due to the spike in the sex hormones estrogen and testosterone.
These hormones are equally activated in both male and female. It enforces you to spend time with your partner and make a physical relationship with your partner.
When we are young in teenage, then testosterone, estrogen and other sex hormones become active in our body which creates the desire to experience love.
This desire is called lust and plays a very important role throughout our live but romantic love and lust are different things.
Lust is just a desire for sexual mating while love evolves because of need.
2. Attraction
For this stage dopamine and norepinephrine are responsible. When these hormones are released when you start to feel addiction, love and this gives you pleasure every time you think about your lover.
With this serotonin is also activated and you feel like obsession and infatuation in love. In this stage, you want to be with your partner every time.
3. Attachment
This stage comes when you have in relation for too long. This stage comes after attraction.
At this stage in our body, oxytocin and vasopressin hormones are released.
You feel attached and addictive toward your lover. You feel calm and all anxiety is gone.
Facts about Love
- At the age of 16, 85% of people already met the person they are going to marry.
- The more we hear, the more we believe, it is true. This called the illusion of truth effects.
- Men typically fall in love faster than women.
- Men are more attracted to women who wear red.
- We also tend to someone who looks like ourselves.
- Erotomania is a psychological disorder in which a victim thinks that another person is in love with them.
- Philophobia is the fear of falling in love.
- There are almost 3 Million first dates every day around the world.
- Sanskrit has 96 words for love.
- Falling in love, at first sight, is true, according to the psychologist. It takes 2-4 minutes who made a good impression on you.
- When two people look in each other’s eyes for 4 minutes their heart-rates sync up.
- Being in love is exactly the same as you are hooked up to cocaine
- You can fall in love with the stranger if you keep gazing at them.
- Partners with too much similarity and too many differences do not last very long.
- People generally prefer attractive face over the attractive body when they look for long term relation.
- Sanskrit has 96 words for love.
- Falling in love, at first sight, is true, according to the psychologist. It takes 2-4 minutes who made a good impression on you.
- When two people look in each other’s eyes for 4 minutes their heart-rates sync up.
- Being in love is exactly the same as you are hooked up to cocaine
- You can fall in love with the stranger if you keep gazing at them.
- Partners with too much similarity and too many differences do not last very long.
- People generally prefer attractive face over the attractive body when they look for long term relation.
- Human beings are capable of being “just friends” with members of the opposite sex.
- A broken heart is not just an expression and its actual medical condition.
- Your pain can be relieved if you see the picture of a loved one.
- Other than human, the animal can also stick with one partner like wolves, swans, penguins.
- Perfect love is a passion, commitment, and intimacy based on the triangular theory of love.
- People who have the same level of attractiveness are more likely to end up together.
- Who suffers from hypopituitarism can never feel love. This is a rare disease.
- Most people fall in love approximately 7 times before they get married 15. Women fall in love when they talk to a person’s face to face. Men fall in love when they feel emotionally close.
- 23% of people end up marrying who meets through online 17 in the survey it is found that 52% of women said that their husband is not their soulmate.
Summary
Love is nothing but a hormone rush. It is addictive like cocaine and neurotransmitter such as dopamine, adrenaline, and serotonin plays a most important role in falling in love. Love is all in your brain, but your all senses, such as ear, nose, skin, the eye also play a central role in Love.
Psychologist divides love in three phase Lust, attractions, and affection. But still, science knows very little about love.
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